Children are a gift, mandate, and at the same time libel for parents. Said to be a blessing if the child will grow and develop into a person capable of delivering self, family, and environment to meet its main function as a human being, namely as a servant and at the same time as the mandate of God Almighty on this earth. Someone who has been able to perform its main function would be to have the nature of piety. Character of the righteous when he will be and behave always consider whether the attitudes and behavior is good and right according to him, good and right by and for others, and in accordance with the teachings of God.
For parents and community, is a surrogate son. A person who receives a deposit guard duty, not to deposit it and then destroyed when requested by the owner, ie Allah SWT. This is because, a person who was given the responsibility, especially the husband as head of the family will be held accountable answer. Prophet Muhammad SAW said to the parents to not humiliate a child, did not select you, do good to children, and educate children well. Therefore, as a parent obligated to provide perfect good living and good education for their children. Maintenance of birth is very important for the physical growth of children. While living will ripen inner psychological development of children. Meanwhile, a good education will lead children to practice to find, process, and actualize our potential and have an optimal direction.
Children are also said to be slanderous (trials) to parents and the community. Because children including jewelry world that can turn parents and community members from the remembrance of Allah SWT. Actually, becomed the world and everything in the jewelry for men was to test who among those who can act and behave well. The purpose of being and doing good are learning the positive side of the world and everything in existence for humans as well as to explore and utilize the guidance of Allah SWT for the benefit of worship to God.
Is a natural thing that every parent expects their children grow and develop into a quality person or righteous. Righteous child who is capable of delivering a child herself, family, and environment meet his functions, namely as a servant and as a mandate of Allah SWT. To fulfill his desire that, various efforts were made. It's just, sometimes they are less calculation. Thus, often the result he wanted was not linear. In fact, inversely. For example, parents want their children grow up to be a good boy, but what happened instead was children grow up to be a rebel.
Not linear between the desire of parents to the child's condition more attitudes and behaviors due to the wrong in raising a child that was exhibited by the parents and the rest due to strong negative pressure from the environment into the child. This is because the child since birth in nature condition. was good and whether the child was very dependent on upbringing and education that is applied by parents and society. Attitudes and behavior is wrong because it often happens the good parents of children with disproportionately bulked, so instead of children grow and develop into a good person but just the opposite.
For that, it is important for anyone who will or are related to the child to know the attitudes and behavior that was wrong in educating children. The goal is to ensure that parents or expectant parents to take advantage of many examples of attitudes and behavior that was wrong in educating children to then follow up by making an appropriate strategy to educate children in accordance with the religion. Because smart people are those who learn from their own mistakes, and the truly wise are those who learn from the mistakes of others.
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