Inconsistencies in question is a discrepancy between words and actions or in terms of Java region is often referred to not advised but did not want to implement. Attitudes and behavior often encountered in daily life. However, before doing the observation, assessment, and judgment attitudes and behaviors of others, it would be much better if we muhasabah or introspects to ourselves, whether we are too often demonstrate attitudes and behaviors like that or not. This is, none other than the form of preventive efforts of the attack characteristics ra gelem ngoco karo awake dewe (do not want the mirror to itself) that will foster the spirit of"Elephants appear across the ocean, Ants in invisible eyelids. "In the context of parent relationships with children, attitudes and behavior of this inconsistency will not only bring negative impact on the child's personality, but also for parents. For example, in the case:Father who advised his son not to smoke, but he himself that smoking in front of her son. Or,A teacher who advised his students to diligently going to school, but often absent in their own teaching. Or,Mothers who advised his daughter to avoid gossip, but he himself was preoccupied with other mothers gossip while petan (looked for louse in the hair).In the case above, the purpose of parents and teachers may be good, which advised children and students do not smoke, do not gossip, and not lazy to learn, but unfortunately the advice was not followed by an example of harmony. Thus, attitudes and behaviors displayed by parents or teachers in the above case it would foster attitudes and behaviors of no confidence against parents or teachers in the child. If already like that, your child will not heed the advice-advice. Even worse is very possible the child would dare to present the action which varies inversely with the advice of parents or teachers. This behavior must be very humiliating.People are inconsistent in his attitude and behavior will not only be the object of insults the people around him, but more than that of Allah and His Messenger also anger with him. In the QS. As-Shaf: 2-3 God Almighty says,"O you who believe, why do you say something you do not? Great sin in the sight of Allah Almighty, if you say what you do not do. ""Do you ordered kindness to others is you forget yourself and you read the Book? Do not you think? "(Surat al-Baqara: 44)Prophet Shu'eyb A.S. said to his people,"I do not want to violate you in doing what I forbid you to you. I just want my best good. "(Surat al-Hud: 88)Rasulullah SAW said,"Someone brought in on the day of Resurrection, and he cast into hell. Bowels loose and he spun in circles like a donkey with a saddle spinning. The inhabitants of hell around him and said, 'O So and so, why are you so it? Would not you ordered the good and forbid anger? 'The man replied,' Once I ordered you to do good, but I did not do it. And I prohibit you from doing anger, but I do it '. "(Narrated by Bukhari)Now we have to know a little picture of the attitudes and behavior inconsistent, negative effects for children and parents or teachers, and the consequences she would face in the world and the Hereafter. The next question, whether we will continue to recognize and believe that it is the best method to motivate our children?How comfortable and happy we are, when they saw our kids presents attitudes and behavior contrary to our advice? Or, how strong we are holding an insult of our own children? Or, how strong the power to cool our bodies resist the heat of hell?Before they go on, evaluating, contemplating, and regret is a wise step. Following the bad with the good is a smart first step to realize the establishment of good. Reverse way, such as advising methods. If previously advised by the tongue, now advised him to act. This means, more forward action (action) rather than only talk (just talk). That is, because it is more concrete actions than words. Something concrete is easier and faster to be understood, felt, and imitated (modeling).
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